Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication Interpersonal Communication While reading the article, Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication, I couldn’t help but giggle when reading about the study that took place when researchers asked 24 couples to participate in an experiment. I laugh because this is an ongoing everyday experience. I believe that we all have been in a situation with a spouse, friend, sibling or co-worker where somehow the signals seemed to have crossed somewhere down the line. It’s like Sole puts it in the text, when communicating, there is a sender and a receiver.
Before communicating, the sender must encode the idea that he or she wants to communicate or put it into some form or code that the other person can understand. (Sole, 2011) If the other person does not understand the code, he or she will not be able to decode, or interpret the message correctly. This explains the mishap in the article between the couple. Comparing this article to readings from the text, it is clear that interpersonal communication is very important in all aspects of life. Especially when it comes to close relationships.
With close relationships on hand, it is assumed that the two can understand each other better than strangers. I strongly believe that when it comes to a personal relationship with a significant other, communication is an important factor that can either make or break the relationship. In this type of relationship, both parties being on the same wavelength can be difficult because in any form of dispute, signals can easily get crossed and/or one person is thinking about how the other person will handle something which will lead to hurt and pain.
No one wants to see the other person hurt and this can cause a partner to filter their true thoughts and feelings about any given topic just to make the other person feel better. In my relationship, I do find that sometimes it is so much easier to leave well enough alone and end the discussion. According to Sole, this is where feedback comes into play. Feedback is defined as any information a communicator gets from others in response to his or her message. (Sole, 2011) I tend to dis-engage myself from any forms of feedback if my partner isn’t automatically on the same page as I am.
I just get the feeling that he does not understand me and there is no point on going back and forth about the same thing. After reading the text, I understand that this behavior is unhealthy for the relationship to build and become stronger. I believe that in order for me to make sure that this miscommunication doesn’t keep happening, I will need to keep in mind that communication is shared meaning and each person in a communication encounter has a responsibility to work toward achieving this shared understanding and interpretation.
Therefore, it is important that I listen and evaluate my partners statements before responding to them as well as choosing my words carefully instead of lashing out and disregarding the whole conversation as a whole. I have taken note that whenever we do this, the same situation is bound to reappear in the near future leaving us at the same starting point with no end to the tunnel. Having that been said, being able to listen to one another whether we like what the other person is saying or not, will indeed prevent us from having this same dispute in the near future.
Perhaps, we can compromise on the situation and make things work to our advantage. References Sole, K. (2011). Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication. San Diego, CA: Bridge Point Education Inc. (http://content. ashford. edu) Anonymous, (Jan. 2011) Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication. U. S News & World Report. Retrieved from http:// http://health. usnews. com/health-news/family-health/brain-and-behavior/articles/2011/01/24/close-relationships-sometimes-mask-poor-communication